One Day I Will

Madeleine Albright once said, “It took me quite a long time to develop a voice, and now that I have it, I am not going to be silent.” Throughout history, women have had to fight to be fully recognized as equal and valuable human beings.
Today, on International Women’s Day, we remember and honor that struggle. Although we are available to anyone in the adult industry, the majority of our clients are women, and we work tirelessly every day to help them become empowered…to help them find their voice in a world that often tries to drown them out. The inspiring and dynamic author and poet, Maya Angelou, was a sex worker and madam. Her life experiences shaped her and she openly shared about this part of her life in her memoir, Gather Together in My Name. She is a perfect example of an empowered women who forged a dynamic path in this world. Everyone has that same potential.
We believe there are six strategies to help empower women who come to us for support:
1. Giving Validation
One of the most important aspects of the care that we offer, is that we listen, and we validate. The Cupcake Girls have no agenda or timetable for our support, which allows us to hear each story, to validate each person, exactly where they are. The first step to empowerment is being heard, and we strive every day to be a safe place to be heard.
2. Honoring Ourselves
We believe empowered people take time to honor themselves. We walk alongside our clients while they do the hard work of discovering what motivates and inspires them, but also what challenges them. Through self-discovery they can honor who they are, and take next steps on the journey to who they want to be.
3. Taking Responsibility
A crucial step to empowerment is learning to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. We believe every client has the power to make their own decisions and handle their obligations, So we never do the hard work for them. However, we also know that sometimes they need a cheerleader in their corner and we are here to celebrate every step of the journey.
4. Setting Boundaries
Boundaries are physical, mental, and emotional limits we put in place to maintain healthy relationships and interactions with others. Having healthy boundaries is learning to say no when needed, and learning how to interact with others in a healthy and respectful way. Therapy and individual counseling are some of the ways we help clients set up healthy boundaries and become empowered.
5. Setting Goals
The road to empowerment means setting goals as a roadmap to success. We meet with clients daily to help them set individual and professional goals, using the SMART system. Our clients goals become our goals and we work to empower them in their pursuits.
6. Empowering Others
As we become healthy, mindful, and empowered, it is only natural that we would desire to empower others. We see clients every day who take these new skills and spread them within their communities. As the famous quote says, “Here’s to strong women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.”
It is our hope that by empowering women, each one will be able to stand up and say, “One day I will,” and mean it.